La Gordita rants

Alright listen, Ecuador, just because you have no problem talking about body image doesn't mean the gringos are down with it. The only person who had the right to call me gordita was my grandma, and it was because it was said with love! A warning to anyone who wishes to come to Ecuador I hope you are secure in your body and self esteem because Ecuador will detect your insecurities and magnify them. But if you are secure perhaps the Ecuadorian health check system will make you questione everything you once thought you knew about health care.

You have a small pimple on your cheek? Well you better believe that thing will be the topic of conversation at dinner. How you got it, why you got it, how you can get rid of it. You probably have the pimple because you ate something wrong, or the climate. The remedy; wash your face with lime juice. (I've been told that once before)

Are you sick? It's probably because your stomach is delicate, and the climate. The remedy; don't eat anything with seeds in it because seeds "hace daño" and will create rocks in your organs. (no joke)

Do you have a fever or a cough? You were sitting in front of a fan too long, or because of the cold air from the refridgerator and of course the climate. The remedy; pass an egg over your body and don't drink or eat anything cold.

Wihtout a doubt no matter what your problem is the climate is a reason why it is happening. Never forget that the climate in Ecuador will apparently destroy you because it is the cause of EVERYTHING. According to the Ecuadorians that is.

Now last but not least, are you fat? Or maybe just a little extra junk in the trunk? Maybe a tad bit round about the edges? Woooooh let me tell ya you will never hear the end of it. Perhaps Ecuadorians think that you have forgotten what you look like, or maybe they are just so secure in their own jelly that they feel as if everyone should be comfortable talking about it. They will grab your belly and shake it, they will tell you should eat less because you are growing fatter, they will tell you that you are huge! It's as if you don't look in a mirror or live with yourself everyday, because they point out everything that is wrong with you.

Oh and if you're fat they will make you the standard. In conversations when describing people they will say how big or small they were in comparison to your size, oh "you´re nothing compared to how fat this woman was" or "she was probably the size of your leg she was so skinny."

Kids will poke at your belly, or maybe even ask if you are preggers. And like all kids they of course will tease you about eating all the food in the world or some stupid shit like that. People won't let you be even while you are eating dinner or enjoying yourself at a party, if you like the food you may get a comment that of course you do because you like all food. Or perhaps you will hear the comment, "if you eat a lot of rice you're going to look like[inseart your name here]." if you're dancing at a party you'll hear comments about how you need to dance to lose weight. There really is no safe haven from the comments. They will even be your personal scale! Oh you've lost weight, oh nope you've gotten fat again. It can be relentless at times.

And yet, you must accept it and develop a tough skin because that is the way of the Ecuadorian culture, hell that is the way of Latino culture. I know they don't say it to be mean, they do say it with love and for them it isn't insulting so I take it with a grain of salt. I've always been la gordita and I'm fine with it, but at times I just wish I could be something else.

Oh, Ecuador, I love you, but you're killing my esteem!